tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post4318387309076040556..comments2024-01-22T19:07:03.799-08:00Comments on Sewing & Quilt Gallery: The Social Graces which Social Media LacksUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-9059645318183407042015-10-12T14:39:50.506-07:002015-10-12T14:39:50.506-07:00I have just found your blog and I am amazed at you...I have just found your blog and I am amazed at your work and sharing generosity. Your quilting talent is extraordinary in my opinion. I am reading back through your posts and plan on doing until I have read them all. Thank you for sharing xoxRainbowSpinnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07902235822209282971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-57014250555788759842015-04-26T21:10:08.463-07:002015-04-26T21:10:08.463-07:00I missed the bomb, and I hear your frustration in ...I missed the bomb, and I hear your frustration in this post. When did it become a crime to have an opinion??? Well in general...people should not be so quick to take offense and everything so personally. I love to see your quilts and quilting. Hugs<br /><br />CelineAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06453860391710517201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-1530571000630279422015-04-22T12:51:19.519-07:002015-04-22T12:51:19.519-07:00I read the MQX post and I remember the two comment...I read the MQX post and I remember the two comments that you elude to. I think I was probably paying closer attention than many because I had two client quilts in that show and my personal goals are constantly to improve - so I was quite interested in your thoughts on the show. Knowing how small the competitive quilting community is - and that these comments have a high chance of being read by the person they are about, I am very cautious speaking my mind as to not offend or hurt feelings...and reading your blog for some time now I imagine that wasn't your ultimate intention. I also realize that being on the receiving end of such comments can sting, even if that wasn't what you meant for them to do. I suspect there is much that might be lost in text versus having a face to face conversation with someone. I cannot say that I don't shake in my boots when I know one of my quilts will be at the same venue as yours - or more still - as YOU! We have come to know you as someone who is quite forward about your thoughts and feelings on competition quilting. It's something I do very much enjoy about your blog. I sort of view your thoughts as I would a judge's comments. You come from a place of knowledge so I have a great respect for what you say, even though I may not agree all of the time. Isn't that the nature of all human interaction though? I do think it's valuable to have your perspective...as well as that of many other very talented quilters out there. It's obvious to all of us that you have some expertise on what you speak about! So in that regard, I do listen and pay attention. But just as I would a judge...I think we all have to remember that it's opinion. They are yours and you have the right to them - you also have the right to share them here or on Facebook or anywhere you see fit. I can read them - or not. I cannot control what you say or about whom, myself included, but I can control how I let those words effect me. I enjoy your work and your take on competitive quilting as a way of making a living. I realize this is your goal and I think to the non-competitive quilter it can be difficult to understand your motivation (hence, the questioning why you might enter 3 quilts into one show). I can't say it's the motivation of all of us - but it is yours and is shared by many others. I don't think that's wrong - it's just, what it is, and if you want to compete on a high level it is something to be aware of. Quilting gives me a sense of purpose and value - and something to strive for as I am a stay at home mom with little physical "reward" for my hard work. Climbing a progressive ladder and growing in my skill gives me that tangible reward that I really needed, it's allowed me an income, and a great feeling of self worth that makes life so much more fulfilling for me. So while I'm very interested in competition quilting and just recently delving into that world - I think for me it's more for self gratification than anything. I would say it is wise when sharing to consider and be sensitive the the feelings of those you speak about - that doesn't mean that you can't share your thoughts, but definitely know that they may not always be welcomed. I am truly sorry to hear that a rift in a good friendship may have resulted and I hope that it can be resolved. I think you are both immensely talented artists and offer a real gift to the world in your own unique ways. Valerie the Pumpkin Patch Quilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09350509427673390188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-32128519269474993392015-04-21T14:21:15.315-07:002015-04-21T14:21:15.315-07:00Margaret I read the original post and found nothin...Margaret I read the original post and found nothing controversial about it. I have admired you since the first time I saw any of your work, and I hope you don't let this slow you down. Every guild, sewing circle and pumpkin patch has the backbiting you experienced. Take it as a compliment that you have become so important to us all that your opinions matter.greenjayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18426904542669778359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-77902859916482485182015-04-20T23:43:37.153-07:002015-04-20T23:43:37.153-07:00Margaret, I didn't see what was offensive abou...Margaret, I didn't see what was offensive about your post that you had to take down. I took the comments about the peacocks as that you thought they were beautiful and that it would have been nice to see them with more contrast, etc. That seemed to me to be both a compliment as well as your opinion. Nothing to be offended about. And why in the world would someone be upset about the number of quilts that you enter into shows?!!! Show quilting is another way that you earn money. Keep it up!Tami @ Lemon Tree Taleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655631671353374029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-3639362555667059882015-04-20T12:54:22.864-07:002015-04-20T12:54:22.864-07:00Sorry I missed your post, I was looking forward t...Sorry I missed your post, I was looking forward to seeing how you fared at MQX. I loved thepost where you went through the process of creating A show quilt. You always teach me something new here. And i totally agree, I love posts that are more than just pretty pictures but have content. Though I will admit I rarely write them because I'm too scared of conflict. This example is exactly it. What a shame that people hide in anonymity on the Internet and ruin it for all. Becky (My Fabric Obsession)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09264800140397196483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-4861021786435068322015-04-20T11:13:57.564-07:002015-04-20T11:13:57.564-07:00I agree with you. What a shame people seem to be s...I agree with you. What a shame people seem to be so nasty & uncaring anymore. I feel strongly that people have the right to their opinions & have the right to express them (we are still a free country, right). Like you, I made a very benign comment, not criticism on FB recently & the lash that came back was almost frightening. I am so sorry yoU had to endure this. Like you said, people need to grow up!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11038167511470782671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-59247076161632068392015-04-20T04:54:08.313-07:002015-04-20T04:54:08.313-07:00I really enjoyed your commentary about the quilts,...I really enjoyed your commentary about the quilts, it was like 2 friends talking and sharing opinions about quilts at a big Nat'l show - honest straight forward! Ignore the fan-girls and haters, they won't change...... Mechellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049531841223071105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-50783240895919693362015-04-20T02:15:47.202-07:002015-04-20T02:15:47.202-07:00I read your comments about my quilting and took it...I read your comments about my quilting and took it as your opinion, it never occurred to me that I should be offended by it. I seldom post on Facebook and keep my blog pretty bland because I am a private person but also to avoid the kind of mess you describe. Your willingness to post your opinions may cause controversy, but it makes your blog that much more interesting! Hope to see you in Paducah.Jan Hutchisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16385683114126861886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-7697352389687632122015-04-19T22:15:35.016-07:002015-04-19T22:15:35.016-07:00I missed the "offensive" post myself, bu...I missed the "offensive" post myself, but I can tell you that social media has emboldened people to say things that they would NEVER say to someone's face. I do not do Facebook except with my kids/grandkids but I wish people would think before they post nasty things. I think you have every right to your opinion and, in following you, have found your blog to be professionally done and very informative--and your quilts are flat out amazing. Please don't let one person change the way you blog. There are many of us out her who are silent but appreciative!!lvkwilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09938695006852018109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-75833907251119902432015-04-19T13:04:51.260-07:002015-04-19T13:04:51.260-07:00Are the joys of being a quilter. The "Tall P...Are the joys of being a quilter. The "Tall Poppy Syndrome" strikes again. I too have suffered from the backlash of others jealousy through Social Media, I was fortunate that I didn't read it. Had plenty of others pass it on that I had been slammed. How would the "slammer" feel if their jealousy meant that no one entered quilts in shows anymore. Its been six months time I got in and pieced some quilts ready for my next show entries. Margaret keep up your blog entries, they are informative, and I look forward to "your comeback" to the writer.Busy Quiltinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03746101995077488549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-58571724616138245402015-04-19T12:44:46.336-07:002015-04-19T12:44:46.336-07:00I feel there has been a loss of civility with the ...I feel there has been a loss of civility with the invention of social media. People seem to get emboldened behind their keyboards to hurl the most awful and hateful words. It's reminiscent of playground bullies. Just look at any political discussion. Or any discussion involving gun control.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12885853913228818043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-58940078305176213272015-04-19T12:43:51.299-07:002015-04-19T12:43:51.299-07:00I suspected that you had taken it down because som...I suspected that you had taken it down because someone complained. I read your blog, a) because you are very talented and have great ideas for quilting, b) to marvel at the quilt designs you come up with and c) because you share your struggles and opinions about what works and what doesn't. <br /><br />Please don't stop doing this because of a few inconsiderate individuals who probably do not have and never will have your talent. <br /><br />I will never be a super star, but I enjoy reading about the journeys of others. <br /><br />JudyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03819573032802370411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-62895335517063474542015-04-19T12:22:47.265-07:002015-04-19T12:22:47.265-07:00I found you in the AQS magazine last year. My firs...I found you in the AQS magazine last year. My first thought was how such a beautiful woman made these wonderful quilts! (This does not imply other quilters including me are not beautiful.) Since then I enjoy reading your blog very much.<br />I have been quilting for two years. As a beginner, your blog is truly my motivation and inspiration. I can learn a lot from your blog.<br />Thank you.Michikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06455214618385741983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-8736346789950597472015-04-19T10:58:50.271-07:002015-04-19T10:58:50.271-07:00This is my first visit to your blog, via Amy's...This is my first visit to your blog, via Amy's. I can feel your pain and anger :) I wrote this post back in February http://quirkeries.blogspot.com/2015/02/civility.html<br />along the same lines. A dear long time friend erased me from her life because of it. <br /><br />I just don't get all those placards, doesn't anyone think for themselves anymore?<br />all the best, SharynSharyn Mallow Woerzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17776056375534578046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-75972988068011773782015-04-19T10:38:10.659-07:002015-04-19T10:38:10.659-07:00I just don't understand why people have to be ...I just don't understand why people have to be so nasty, and especially when hiding behind social media. If you don't like what someone writes on their blog then click the close button and move on. I am sorry you have experienced this nastiness.<br />I am another quilter who enjoys the educational side of your blog as well as the magnificent quilts you create so please keep going.Marlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11035448151496133522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-24069798318339554082015-04-19T10:04:32.939-07:002015-04-19T10:04:32.939-07:00Wowza! I had no idea. I read the post, and while y...Wowza! I had no idea. I read the post, and while you do have strong opinions, I respect them. I also enjoy learning from them. I thought you were being very respectful of the work you discussed without being too general and generically nice. I mean, who wants to hear a bunch of "Here's a pretty quilt"? Duh. We can all see that.Amy @ Amy's FMQ Adventureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249397590865683398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-38107673815929290662015-04-19T09:57:59.307-07:002015-04-19T09:57:59.307-07:00I enjoy your blog. You enable me to see the Quilti...I enjoy your blog. You enable me to see the Quilting world from a perspective that I appreciate. Keep on doing what you are passionate about.Marjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16906992320495311399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-73059422742437544062015-04-19T09:52:19.551-07:002015-04-19T09:52:19.551-07:00Hi, Margaret. I'm sorry I missed your earlier...Hi, Margaret. I'm sorry I missed your earlier post before you took it down! I follow your blog because I love seeing your work, but I also really appreciate the perspective you share as a truly professional quilter. Not just professional meaning "high quality standards," but literally professional as in quilting primarily to generate income versus quilting as a hobby and gee, wouldn't it be nice to win a ribbon someday. I've been looking into all different kinds of quilting related business options lately from authoring craft books, pattern design, magazine submissions, etc. and it's discouraging to see that most of these endeavors pay so little that few are able to sustain themselves on their quilting business alone. So when I read your blog about how you quilt professionally for others and also create your own quilts for competition, I think it's really cool that you've figured out how to make a quilting business work for you with two income streams that support and reinforce one another so well. Obviously the sheer volume of quilts you've worked on over the years has really honed your talents and abilities, and the awards your personal quilts have won not only help to keep your business model profitable but also reinforce your reputation as a highly skilled long arm quilter. <br /><br />The really ugly truth is that, even in 2015, women are still more likely to tear each other down rather than build each other up. If you were a male quilter, everyone would be admiring your business acumen instead of grumbling that it isn't fair for you to enter multiple quilts into a show or whatever they were whining about. Rebecca Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14801489818836195754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-46967105686838323142015-04-19T09:30:27.857-07:002015-04-19T09:30:27.857-07:00There are some people who "thrive on negative...There are some people who "thrive on negative" so they constantly post hurtful comments to feed their addiction. <br /><br />Freedom of speech is our right so do not let them gain control over you by deleting a post. Reporters are a prime example of someone under constant criticizing. We don't always agree with what they say yet we keep listening anyway.<br /><br />If someone claims to be a friend they will know your intent and whats in your heart. Anyone else is not really a friend and what they say doesn't matter.<br /><br />Its your blog, write it the way you want. Don't like, don't read.<br /><br />Anita aka Na NaNa Nahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536204640038696190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-12698962452204560402015-04-19T08:41:07.270-07:002015-04-19T08:41:07.270-07:00I recently discovered your blog and love the thing...I recently discovered your blog and love the things you post and write. Your work is very beautiful and I hear you about it being a job, and you do it very well. It truly is a shame that we live in an age were people have to behave like the "mean girls" on social media. If they do not like something written on a blog then at least have the decorum to e-mail the blogger privately. Do not let these people and their negativity destroy the joy you have of sharing your beautiful work. Sewing Up A Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07702395570055483788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-12295368032561527282015-04-19T08:11:46.130-07:002015-04-19T08:11:46.130-07:00Dear Margaret. I also feel your frustration. I a...Dear Margaret. I also feel your frustration. I am not at the level you are, but at a higher level than many in our local guild. Boy do I hear about it when I also enter 3 quilts in a show, or just the local county fair. I also happen to be a quick quilter/piecer and, boy oh boy do I hear about that too. I would NEVER mention to another quilter for being a slow quilter, why is it ok to slam me for being a quick quilter. With my job as a seamstress (I make draperies and window treatments), those ladies want their new goodies NOW! So I am just faster, and I am pretty sure its not a crime. While there are many that encourage me, there are those that just plain have to bitch. I guess they are members of the Quilt Police, hehe, and are bound and determined to DO THEIR JOB. Hang in there, I need to get thicker skin.love the blog.<br />Sharon in ColoradoUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12537764562709374621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-16373344763535064762015-04-19T07:18:14.855-07:002015-04-19T07:18:14.855-07:00It's YOUR blog! Write what you want!It's YOUR blog! Write what you want!Susan Lawsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16500464399501817419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-62133591349826034722015-04-19T07:03:17.724-07:002015-04-19T07:03:17.724-07:00I didn't read anything earlier about this whol...I didn't read anything earlier about this whole "mess" (only your description in this post), but I think that you should fight for your rights or (what's better) just ignore the people who are still behaving like kids in kindergarden. I know it's sometimes hard to ignore whole situation, but it's the most "healthy" solution (you won't ever win with stupid people - they will bit you their experience in being stupid:).jednoiglechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090906339628410047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26850144.post-67772807803540346692015-04-19T06:32:10.686-07:002015-04-19T06:32:10.686-07:00I didn't find that post in the slightest bit o...I didn't find that post in the slightest bit offensive. As an aspiring show quilter, I did find it educational. I like to see what you think is unique or different in winning quilts, and I partially read your blog to learn about show quilting. I support you wholeheartedly and appreciate the time you took for the detailed MQX post. Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02436858141037595318noreply@blogger.com